Foundation of Communication

The single most effective thing we can do to improve communication across all important relationships in our life is this . . . listen. Simple. But not easy to do in practice. Human beings are notoriously bad at listening. Even those who think they are good listeners can likely improve. Without intentional, regular practice each […]

Love is an Action

“Let us not love in word or speech but in deed and truth” 1 John 3:18 It’s the timeless adage that actions speak louder than words. Certainly we want our words to reflect truth, but how we act will leave a stronger impression. There is probably no place where this is truer than in our […]

Mastering Marriage Skills

It is well regarded that it takes about 10,000 hours of practice to “master” a desired skill. It is easy to see this play out on the sports field, learning a musical instrument, or in a professional setting. But what about in our marriage? Think of how long it took you to adjust to your […]

Marriage Is a Team Sport: the 3-Legged Race

Do you remember the classic summer camp version of running a 3-legged race? Success in the race depended so heavily on who we were paired with – their height, athletic ability, and previous 3-legged race experience. There were always at least a few pairs that fell in epic fashion while a few others seamlessly raced […]

Making Time for Us

It is safe to say that most people count their family as the most important people in their lives. When anything is even slightly off with one of those relationships, life feels off balance. For instance, if my wife and I aren’t in sync, I feel like I can’t be the best dad for my […]